How do you keep your kids safe when they are out of your care? School, daycare, activities, friends and even teachers and policemen can be masquerading as normal, helpful people and places. You can’t watch your children 24/7. Steps can be taken to make sure your children know what is and isn’t appropriate and to check up on them.
According to Jeff Herman, Founder and Managing Partner at Herman Law; and is also a leading sexual assault victims legal advocate in the U.S., there are things parents can do to make sure their children are safe. First and foremost is making sure your children know that they can talk to you, their parents, and trust you with anything. Some victims of sexual assault go out of their way to not talk about it to anyone, no matter how open their parents are. Sexual assault can be confusing and traumatizing for an adult. Children are in a worse position to understand what is happening and why it is wrong.
Herman has Tips For Parents on how to approach the difficult topic of sexual abuse. Parents need to make sure that their children know that no matter who they are with their bodies are their own and no one has a right to touch them in ways they don’t like. It can be difficult to get this concept across to younger children. Knowing what your child can and can’t understand helps a parent communicate complex concepts that children don’t automatically understand. Whatever age or stage of development it is important to talk to children in language they can understand. Visit This Page to learn more.
It is important that children understand that “no” is an acceptable answer to any question or request that makes them uncomfortable. They must also be told that no matter how much they trust they have in an adult that no adult has the right to make them uncomfortable.
Herman also encourages parents to keep having this conversation over the years. As children age their bodies change and they can forget lesson learned. By keeping the conversation going they will be reminded of these lessons and hopefully foster trust with their parents so that if something does happen to them they can come forward and talk about it.